Getting Along with Yourself

Yesterday I was getting along VERY well with my 12 year old (not an every day occurrence) – I wondered why.

WHY?

I know why.

I chose to treat myself better (“I love myself”)

I chose to focus on the positive with my daughter

Which reminds me…Raising a “30-50 something” woman isn’t easy.

She needs love.
She needs lots of attention – YOUR attention.
She needs lots of kind, comforting words – YOUR words.

I am doing a better job “raising” me – LOVING ME.
So I can do a better job LOVING EVERYONE.

When I look for the best in me – I find it.
When I look for the best in others – I find it.

Everyone is happy.

Now, what could be simpler?
Do I hear you say, “but you don’t understand what is going on in my life!”
No, I don’t understand. But you do.
You have a choice – choose peace – with yourself.

When I was going through my divorce I didn’t like myself (one of many times) and I had a difficult time being compassionate towards others. I had a difficult time loving myself, accepting the situation, my (then husband’s) actions, the world. Then, during a counseling session our marriage counselor gave us a quote that I suspected was from AA – just by the language – but I never checked it until yesterday.

It is a quote about acceptance – which leads to peace.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.

When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place,
thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.
AA Big Blue Book page 449 (3rd Edition)

You have a choice to accept what “is” because you can’t change it.
You can only change how you react - what you DO.
It is up to you.

Acceptance = peace.
Resistance = torturing yourself.

“What you resist persists”
What is your choice?
Choose peace. Choose acceptance of the NOW.
Love yourself!