Breaking Out of the Blues!

How I Got Back to Sanity (You Can Too!)

Last week was “one of those weeks!”

I was my own worst enemy – I was thinking tons of garbage thoughts. I wasn’t supporting myself.

I ended up face-to-face with chocolate cake (ate too much!)

Then I thought, “How can I tell women that I have the answer to overeating if I am overeating – emotionally eating?”

The answer: I am not perfect! (Yes, I do wish I were sometimes – but I am told that it would be boring).

I was SO frustrated with my business. “Surely if I do X then Y should happen,” I thought. Well, if you have been in business long enough you know that “things always take longer than you think.”

So I overate.
Yes, I got out of it. But being in it is awful. And, you feel like you will NEVER get out of it. You believe that you must diet.

But, diets don’t work! You need a permanent solution.

Here is what saved me and can save you too:

-I am aware that I am upset. And, I tell myself it is OK – I will figure it out (in between bites or when I choose to stop).So, even when I am overeating I am VERY aware that I am choosing to avoid a feeling.

-I know that it is just a feeling – and I don’t have to eat my feelings. I can just feel them.

-I have decided NOT to beat myself up when I overeat.

-I ask, “What do I want? What do I want that food can never give me?” and I take a deep breath.

-I journal. When I do, the insights are amazing!

-If I don’t journal, I get away from the food and ask the question again. “What do I want?”

-I TRUST myself not to go past a “+3” or “+4”. I know that I won’t go crazy and gain weight. (I teach you how in the program).

-I know that it’s not the end of the world – I can escape the situation by asking the question, giving myself time and COMPASSION.

Can you stop?
Do you KNOW when you are “satisfied”?
Can you eat your favorite foods without worrying that you will overeat?

If not, join me for my next FREE teleseminar where I will share with you:

-Why diets don’t work (studies show that you actually GAIN more weight than you lose on diets)
-4 steps you can take TODAY to lose weight quickly!
-How LWGY is unique and why it works!

Give Me a Rule...& I'll Rebel!

I recently took a “test” that told me “You don’t like rules – you rebel.”

Why wasn’t that a surprise to me? It may have been remembering the time when I ate 9 donuts because they were free – or 12+ munchkins, or….

When we are told what to eat, when to eat and how much, we rebel. We are no longer listening to our own bodies, we disconnect. When this happens repeatedly (dieting) we decide that we can NEVER achieve an “ideal” weight. How sad!

You can lose the weight – forever – but you must first decide that it is possible!

Take Amy’s story: she battled the same 10+ pounds for years, has sisters that have “real” weight issues, but was surprised at to learn during “Losing Weight Gaining You” that what held her back were her beliefs – about herself, her weight and her life.

“I GOT IT! Paula, I understood after only 6 sessions that it’s not about the food, and I started connecting with myself, loving myself and being kinder to myself. The weight has stayed off and I am MUCH happier in all areas of my life! This is transformational! Thanks so much!”
-Amy S., Rock Hill, SC

So, how do you start?

You must first decide!

A decision means that there is no going back – it’s an absolute. It’s not a matter of, “Well, that didn’t work too well, so I will give up,” it’s a commitment to yourself. You say, “I can do this – no matter what.” And, it means that you expect that there will be times when you are not perfect - which is perfect!

You are in the middle of a learning process (it’s called your life) and you will repeatedly go down the “wrong” path in order to learn something that you must know to continue on your life’s (spiritual) journey.

I believe that we are all at the “perfect” place – we are all exactly where we should be on our path right now. I find this very comforting – as I am constantly questioning what I am doing, if it is the right thing, etc. in my business.

Next, forgive yourself!

After you decide you must forgive – and learn to love yourself as well as you can. At every moment of your life you are doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources that you have. “You are doing the best you can with what you have.” AND now that you have different information, you can make different decisions!

Today, I want you to focus on YOU in 3 ways (this will start you on your weight loss journey)

Stop criticizing yourself.

This can only lead to pain – notice how it makes you feel and STOP!
Say – “I like myself” “I am doing my best” “This is going to be a great day!”

These positive statements (affirmations) can be tremendously powerful and will “lift you up!” Say each a minimum of 20 times a day. (Go ahead, it won’t hurt! But the garbage you have been telling yourself will hurt. Please, just try it!)
Connect with other like minded people – “surround yourself with positive”

I’ve heard, “You can’t soar with the eagles when you hang with the turkeys!” Each person carries with themselves energy. Get with the great energy!

Check the blog next week for your next step. Or, if you want more immediate help see my web site: http://www.claimyourbestlife.com/ where you will find links to resources, teleseminars and products.

Love yourself!

I love you.

-Paula

STOP Crazy Voice in Head = STOP Torture = STOP Overeating!

Remember that man who stole my brownie?

My husband is retired and I LOVE him to pieces, but every time I turned around today he was like a kid interrupting me – “Paula, where is this, how do I do that?”

God bless him, I could kill him! (I didn’t thank you!)
The OLD “me” would have eaten something.
What was going on with me – why was I so impatient?

I was impatient with MYSELF – and food wouldn’t work.
I was upset that I hadn’t accomplished more.
I was “taking it out” on him – and me. And since I spend HOURS each day researching this stuff, I figured it out – and spared my hips some padding.

As soon as you STOP and reflect you may discover your answers.
Whatever your reaction to a situation – whether it’s overeating or fuming YOU set it up!
You set it up and YOU need to get in touch with your feelings – to get peace!

If you are overeating, you are “eating” your emotions. You are “stuffing” your feelings, eating out of frustration, fear, stress, anxiety – call it what you will.

If you are overeating you are an emotional eater. Period!
And, you are in pain – no matter what belief you are holding about being overweight, it is NOT the core reason for the weight, your thoughts are!

“My metabolism is slow,” (it probably is – and won’t get better until you stop dieting);
“I am getting older” (we all are – you must re-program your brain – the weight will disappear).

3 steps to getting in touch with your feelings:

STOP!
Ask, “What is going on here?”
Notice that your brain (crazy mind) may give you some lies such as, “He is a ________ (choose your own label) and he/she is trying to disrupt my world.”

REFLECT – WRITE
Your brain’s job is to keep “running.” Unless you interrupt it with a good question, it will keep going – and drive you CRAZY! Ask, “What is going on here?” and write in your journal (or paper or PC – whatever – just WRITE!)

KNOW that it is about YOU – not “them” (the perceived enemy who is ruining your life).

RESUME
Ask, “Am I now at peace? Do I know what was going on? How can I be kinder to myself?”

HINT: it is all about loving yourself.
Love yourself.
I love you!

Stop Struggling!!!

I couldn’t find peace the other day. I was unsettled – couldn’t really put my finger on it - I was so annoyed – “things weren’t going my way!”

Then I realized:
my thoughts were garbage (“this isn’t working, I don’t like that…”)

I wouldn’t give up on my negativity – I was stuck on being stuck!

What you resist persists.

That is, what you push against will push against you.

If you are not at ease right now you are resisting something, not accepting it.

What are you not accepting?
Another person, Your job, Your situation, The weather, Your weight?

Much of what I was fighting was based upon faulty belief systems.
Here are some faulty beliefs that I uncovered with my clients:

-I can never reach my ideal weight because:
- “My family is heavy”
- “I just love food” (a VERY common one -)
- “I wouldn’t be able to eat my favorite foods.”
- “I would need to exercise all day.”
- ____ (add your faulty belief)

There is a better way out of the struggle – that works in EVERY area of your life!

3 STEPS TO PEACE:

Step 1: Accept
I accept that I am not where I want to be.
I accept that I am unsettled.
I accept, I accept, I accept.
“Accept” - keep at it until you feel peace - ACCEPT!

Step 2: Examine
What is the challenge I am facing?
What is my belief behind that situation or challenge?
Is my belief causing the problem more than the reality of the situation?

Step 3: ACT!
What step(s) can I take right now to address the problem?
One idea: “How can I see this in a different light?”
Does my attitude need to be “adjusted?”
Commit to doing something RIGHT NOW!
Just making the decision will make you feel better.